Our patterns of behaviour learnt from our childhood – family of origin and our role models.
Perhaps one’s default conflict resolution style is to withdraw deep into one another and punish the other with bitter silence. Such behaviour may be assimilated from how our adults in our childhood resolved their conflicts.
Or perhaps one learns how to speak one’s mind, no matter how uncomfortable or how painful. Where the lesson to be learnt is one of tact and of choosing the right time.
To choose whether to affirm or reject each invisible string. The power in between our triggers and reactions to live authentically (credit Viktor Frankl).